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- 12 Jun 2012
It’s the wedding season, and one of those heavy, hand-addressed, cream-colored envelopes just arrived in my mail. Everything about that envelope screams IMPORTANT. When one of these lands in your mailbox, there are several key steps to take, steps which for any other invitation you might not attend to quite so fastidiously (although you probably should, but that’s gist for another column.)
What to do with the invitation? Answer it. The sooner the better. Knowing how many people are attending is critical to the planning of the meal, the seating, the amount of refreshments. When you don’t answer, you leave the bride and groom and their families in a difficult position, so do them a favor and answer it right away.
What about a gift? Give one. It’s an obligation–not as a payback for the reception meal, but as a way of honoring the importance of the occasion. If you don’t know what to send, find out where the couple has registered for gifts. You can ask the couple, their parents, or an attendant, or check out their wedding website if they have one. Choose a gift that’s in your price range. It shouldn’t put you into debt. Are you really meant to send a gift if you aren’t attending? Yes. About the only time you wouldn’t is if the invitation is from an obscure person you haven’t seen in years and with whom you really have no meaningful connection. Even in that case, respond and let the person know you won’t be attending.
Who can go to the wedding with you? Only the people listed on the invitation. If it’s addressed just to you, then it means you alone are invited. If it says your name and “Guest,” then you can bring one person with you. If it’s addressed to you and “Family,” then your kids are invited, too. Under no circumstances should you ever bring a person who hasn’t been invited. If five, ten, or twenty people all did that, there wouldn’t be enough food, refreshments, or seats for everyone.
What do you wear? This is a really big day for the couple, so showing them a little respect by dressing up makes sense. I was at a wedding a few of years ago—a really nice event with a sit-down lunch, music, dancing, the whole nine yards. A couple of guests showed up in shorts and sneakers. They looked like they had just come in from a touch-football game. Totally inappropriate. For hints on what to wear visit the Emily Post Institute’s website.
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